Dating manners for men
So, that is the actual answer, but the reality is, as usual, different.
I think you are focusing too much on the shitty outcomes of a foundational (and in your case, possibly unfixable) problem, not the problem itself. —what is stabilizing for one person will feel like too much, like an expectation, or overkill, or unfun, to someone else.
Men would assist by opening doors for women, and the tradition became one associated with high ranking, properly educated men over time.
Long after the hoop skirts, petticoats, and corsets were a thing of the past, men continued to open doors for women as a sign of politeness and decorum.
Though the origins of the nuances of introductions and first impressions are unclear, it has long been understood that a good first impression is a lasting one, and that you must master the art of first impressions–because you only get one.
I think we should make it easy on everyone and just agree that if a thank-you note is expected after your cousin hosts you for lasagna at their house, a text message is an appropriate expectation after you host some guy’s body inside of your body.One day, he unbuttoned the bottom button of his suit as a reprieve after a large meal, and being the royal celebrity that he was, soon members of the court and ultimately the rest of the world followed this trend accordingly, making it the fashion rule we know today. Leaving the bottom button of your suit unbuttoned is not only an etiquette rule, it has evolved into a fashion rule that all modern men must follow. Okay, so the origins of door-opening may not be as chivalrous as their modern implications would lead you to believe.In medieval and renaissance times, high status women most commonly wore large skirts and tight-fitting corsets, making movement difficult and door-opening virtually impossible.You may have tried in vain to hold a door open for a woman only to be met with a blunt “I can do it myself, thanks.” It’s hard these days to bridge the fine line between genuine politeness and coming across as an ostentatious freak.Society simply doesn’t teach etiquette like it used to.
but one that may have made men believe that manners are no longer needed if a woman can take care of herself), the importance of etiquette has fallen by the wayside in the 21st century.