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The Nice Guy spends his time trying to be as close to his designated crush as possible – after all, the more time he gets to spend with her, the more opportunities she gets to recognize his inner stud-muffin.
He goes out of his way to do nice things for his “friend”, earns her trust and her confidence, provides a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen with… which is all well and good if he were being a genuine friend to her. All of this attention is done, with the desire to support his friend but to ingratiate her to him.
or at least one night of vulnerability-induced sex and an incredibly awkward morning after full of regrets and mint-schnapps-flavored vomit. Check any of the many “I’ve been friend-zoned” or “Nice Guy” rants on Facebook or Reddit or Tumblr – no, seriously, go ahead. Except of course he isn’t, he doesn’t and quite frankly, he’s probably not really in love with her anyway.
For someone like me who lives for inventing other worlds with someone, this is outstandingly hot. Making out with him now is basically like making out with the hot, nerdy guys you had crushes on in high school, if those guys actually knew what they were doing. Nerdy guys truly are the gift that keeps on giving, I swear. If a nerdy guy likes you, he'll steadily make sure you know he likes you, without making you feel pressured to know what you want. So I moved my profile from Pittsburgh and posted it for 3 days in a town where nobody knew me (Philadelphia). Here’s what I found: This proves, in stark and undeniable terms, two things:…Life — and people — can be incredibly unfair. Small wonder most Nice Guys choose to run away and complain about it on their social networks instead.The inevitable end result of the “Nice Guy”‘s relationship with his supposed friend is tragedy – at least as far as the Nice Guy is concerned.
A Nice Guy traditionally finds himself in the Friend Zone in one of two ways: either he asks someone out and gets the Let’s Just Be Friends speech or else he never asks her out in the first place.